Essential Reading – An Introduction

Today, I’m speaking to the men out there. I’m assuming that since you’re reading this, you have some interest in the whole concept of what it means to be a Curated Man. We are simply products of our experiences. When we talk about becoming the men we wish to be, the careful selection of those experiences plays a pivotal roll. Of course, I’m talking about the experiences we choose, not the ones which are thrust upon us.

I hope that other men have a desire to develop into well balanced people. While we all develop and bloom into our own special versions of human beings, a solid foundation is necessary for any of those versions to thrive. While building that foundation can be complex, I have found it important to compartmentalize the approach, to the extent to which it can be accomplished. Let’s call them pillars of the foundation.

Now that we’ve introduced the concept of the pillars, let’s begin our journey of exploring one of them. Reading. I mean, you’re doing it right now. The written word is responsible for the advanced species of animal that humans have become. And while reading has certainly been crowded out of the options available to us to fill the minutes of our day, the importance of doing so has not diminished.

Gentlemen, I’m not going to offer that you have to become book worms. I’m also not suggesting that reading alone can turn you into a well rounded human being. None the less, reading is important. Reading the right things of course is equally important. This brings me to the reason for this specific blog post. Curating the things we read.

Ultimately, choosing the right reading materials will be an intimately personal decision for any man to make. A lot of those decisions will be driven by what interests the individual and their current circumstances. Still, sometimes a road map is extremely helpful when you’re beginning a new journey.

So, I’ll be starting a new ongoing series called Essential Reading. I will be offering some recommendations on some places to start. Many of the books are ones that occupy permanent spots on my own bookshelves. All have made a mark on the man that I have become. Many will sound like obvious selections. Some may seem a little more non-traditional when we talk about curating the men we want to be. All will come with an explanation as to why they were important to me, hopefully providing value to you.

What are some of the most influential books you have enjoyed? I want to hear from you!

A Gentleman’s Goodbye – The Loss of an Inspirational Friend

This wasn’t how I planned on first exploring the concept of The Curated Man in more detail.  Then again, life is full of unexpected events.

This weekend, a friend and former colleague of mine died after a couple of years of battling a debilitating illness.  I cannot and will not pretend the he and I were best friends, but I did grow very fond of him during our brief time shared in this life.  In reflecting upon the loss, I drew a sharper understanding of the impact he had on me.  I’m sure it is an impact felt by almost everyone that was privileged to know him.

Bart was in many ways a master of so many things that I continue to experience challenges with in life.  Kindness, gentleness and a reassuring stoicism were just three of the attributes I struggle to master, but of which Bart delivered faithfully; effortlessly.  His love for his family was evident, not just through his words, but by his presence in their lives.  He came across as comfortable with himself; sure of himself without a trace of conceit.

He probably had no idea that I thought of him in this way.  I certainly didn’t tell him.  That I will regret.  That opportunity, I will never get back.  He was one of the men in my life that I drew inspiration from because of his calming disposition.  I know he’s numbered among the many men in my life that I’ve drawn similar inspiration from.  Those that possessed qualities that I wanted to incorporate into my own essence.  A personal curation of how to be a man; a human.  To that, I am eternally grateful.

Rest easy my friend.  You have done much here for so many.  You have achieved an immortality through the influence you have had on the lives of others; your wife and three boys. That influence lives on and can never be taken away from those who loved you; those who counted you as a friend.